Knowledge is the first step to safety
Abuse is rarely one single thing. Recognising it — in all its forms — helps you or someone you love find a way forward.
What is domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse is any pattern of controlling, coercive, threatening or violent behaviour between people in a relationship or family. It can take many forms.
Psychological & emotional
Financial
Spiritual & faith-based
Physical & sexual
Recognising the signs
- Feeling afraid of your partner
- Being isolated from family and friends
- Constant criticism or humiliation
- Monitoring of your phone or movements
- Threats, intimidation or coercion
- Being blamed for their behaviour
Faith and abuse
Faith can be a source of great strength and comfort. But sometimes scripture, religious teaching or community pressure is misused to excuse abuse, discourage women from seeking help, or make them feel they must stay. You can honour your faith and be safe. We work alongside faith leaders to make this possible.
Healthy relationships
- ✓Respect and equality
- ✓Honest, open communication
- ✓Freedom to see friends and family
- ✓Shared decisions
- ✓Feeling safe to be yourself
Warning signs
- ✕Control over what you do or wear
- ✕Jealousy and possessiveness
- ✕Isolation from loved ones
- ✕Blame and criticism
- ✕Fear of their reaction
Myths & misconceptions
Myth: Abuse is only physical.
Truth: Abuse is often emotional, financial, coercive or spiritual — and just as harmful.
Myth: It can't be abuse if they're a person of faith.
Truth: Abuse happens in every community, including faith communities. Faith should never be used to control.
Myth: She could just leave.
Truth: Leaving is often the most dangerous time. Many barriers — fear, finances, children, faith — make it complex.
Worried about someone?
Listen without judgement, believe them, and let them know support is available. You can also contact us for confidential guidance on how to help safely.
Talk to our team